The little boy knew where his mother had mislaid the car keys but was keeping quiet. At night time he knelt by his bed and prayed, “God, if you get me a bike I’ll tell her where they are.”Sometimes we use prayer in this way. We act as if we can make a bargain with God and then get what we want from him. I promise to do such and such and in return I want this and that. Then when we don’t get what we want we say our prayer has not been answered.
When Jesus taught his disciples the Our Father he wasn’t teaching them a prayer. He was teaching them how to pray, the pattern of prayer, the attitude to take before God. We use the words of the Lord’s Prayer in our public and private prayer, but these words are only a coat hanger for our conversation with God. We acknowledge God’s holiness, our dependence upon him, and then we ask for what we need in order to live life as he intends and to inherit eternal life.
Only those who know their true needs and who have the persistence to put them before God can really pray. And, of course, what we want is not necessarily what we need. That’s why God always answers our prayer but doesn’t always give us what we ask for.
Sometimes the answer might be “no” and sometimes it might be to receive something we least expected from God. But the key to prayer is persistence, never to stop praying. The more we pray the more we come in tune with God’s will. Then our prayer changes. Instead of asking God for this and that we find ourselves able to be at one with the will of God, and this means that we are sure that God is giving us what we need as long as we keep asking and listening.
To think that God would make us ask and ask without bothering to answer is bizarre. Such a God would be perverse. God encourages us to pray in order that we may know him more, discern his will and love him for what we know.
If your child asked you for something reasonable would you ever refuse if you could give it? Then why should God be any different?